What is a funeral really about anyway? We seem to be moving away from the idea of funerals and preferring more to dispose of Mum or Dad quickly and with as little fuss as possible.
I think we have all heard the classic line 'just put me in a box and have a party, I don't want a funeral'. This statement is becoming more and more common and is also evident in the increase in requests for direct cremation.
So my question to you is what is the purpose of a funeral? And what role does the funeral industry have when it comes to explaining this purpose?
Should we simply be there for families when they need us to complete their wishes? Or should we be there to guide families and help them understand the importance of having a funeral?
Please don't get me wrong and think that I am about giving families the hard sell tactics. I don't for one minute believe that the role of the Funeral Director is to upsell anything. However I would like to suggest that, as people in a caring profession, we should be guiding people along their journey of grief and in order to do that we must have a clear understanding of the purpose of a funeral.
As Funeral Directors I would suggest we should be guiding our families in making fully informed decisions. As guides we should not only explain the economic cost for the surviving family members but should also be guiding them to make informed decision when it comes to their emotional currency.
When families call and say they want the cheapest possible option for disposing of their loved one is it not our responsibility to dig a little deeper and ask some courageous questions?